Season's Greetings from David & Ella

The Holiday Season is one that can sometimes be difficult to bear. For many, it is a time of much joy and cheer where appreciation for loved ones can be shown through the giving of gifts and time. But for many, it can also be a difficult time where people are constantly reminded about what they don't have, who they don't have or no longer have. 

I'm Busy: I Don't Have Time For God!

Why is it so hard to spend quality time with God? Everyone and everything else gets our 

undivided attention, but God usually gets us when we're worn out from our day or too tired to get out of bed ..or when we need something. Our jobs, school, activities and material things get most of our time, but all these things can and will perish in a matter of seconds. Some of us take more care of our material things than our souls/spiritual life...but your car can easily be destroyed in an accident in 2 seconds, your hair can fall out, your sneakers can catch on fire BUT your spirit can either live in freedom or suffer for eternity. In any relationship, the people involved have to spend quality time with each other. A relationship without communication and quality time is dead and it cannot grow deeper in intimacy. Christianity is so much more than following a list of rules - do and don'ts.

When the Enemy Reminds Me of My Past

“Blog about abstinence? me? God this sounds like a job for a virgin, my past is way too filthy.” - Me (During the time I argued with God about blogging). I couldn't understand why God wanted to use me. I was still in the process of forgiving myself and completely letting go of my past. Isn’t funny how the devil operates? he decorates sin, lures you in, then he binds you to it. You've said “this is the last time” way too many times! The devil will make sure that sin controls your thoughts, choices and how you spend your day. In the midst of ALL of this, the same devil who teased you with sin is accusing and labeling you a sinner before God. As the devil is accusing you, Jesus is interceding for you. What kind of love is this?! Not only did He die on the cross (for you) but He rose from the dead (for you), and is now sitting at the right hand of God interceding (for you) - Romans 8:34!! The devil works hard to make sure that you don’t forget what you've DONE, to stop you from what you could DO, if you knew how badly God wants to free you. He’ll either use your thoughts, people or anything else he can find. His goal is to hold you back from being the person God has called you to be because you’ll destroy his plans to steal, kill and destroy. So what do you do when the enemy tries to remind you of your past?

Young Christian Couples: Let's Talk Sex; FAQ (Part 1)

PART 2 will be posted very soon! Here are some questions we've been asked and we thought it would probably help others too. If you have any questions or you wish to discuss certain topics further, let us know below! For social media you can contact us on  Instagram : @For_ella @Presidentduodu,  Facebook : Emmanuella Tandoh (hardly on there) , David Asamoah-Duodu and Twitter : @presidentduodu @_xfollowmyheels.

1. Marriage is so far away; you guys are young, why start waiting now?

DAVID: The start of our careers is also far away, yet we’re in school, studying, writing papers, searching for internships, etc. in hopes of best preparing ourselves for our specific offices. In the same breath, we feel that marriage is a serious office that requires serious preparation. We believe that waiting is a huge element of that preparation, and so... we wait.

ELLA: What he said… Why not start now? Before we are even a couple we are God’s children, and our relationship with Him should also come before “us”. It amazes me how we’re so quick to subtract Gods instructions, and shove Him away but not question how the society says our relationships should be. We’re starting now because we want to grow intimacy every day. You might say it’s still possible to grow in intimacy with sex, but I think people only believe that because that’s all they know. When I compare my previous relationships to me and David’s relationship, I see a huge difference! Abstinence has a way of revealing your true colors without your control, I knew I had issues but this relationship has shown me that I’m actually a hot mess. It’s done the same for David also, loving each other back to life and praying for each other has brought a tremendous amount of healing! I know waiting till marriage isn’t the easiest thing to do, actually it’s become the hardest thing I’ve ever done. But it’s brought healing I didn’t know I needed, brought me closer to God, and a relationship that always seems too good to be true. It’s worth it.