Valentine's Day Weekend : David Surprises Ella with If I Ever Fall In Love

Valentine's Day Weekend : David Surprises Ella with If I Ever Fall In Love

This Valentine's Day Weekend
David: "I have some friends who want to meet you"
*group walks into the room singing *
Ella: I'm going to pass out now..

This was Surprise #1! You can hear David laughing while recording this video lol He really got me good! honestly one of the sweetest moments of my life , thank you for showing me that I do not have to degrade myself for a man to honor me. You go out of your way to remind me that I'm loved every chance you get and I appreciate you so much! 
And thank you to S - Factor of Tufts University , your voices numbed me... literally I couldn't move lol! 

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Young Christian Couples: Let's Talk Sex; FAQ (Part 2)

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1. Over 2 years of being together and no sex? How is this normal for you guys, since this wasn't how your previous relationships were?

DAVID: This is hands-down, my toughest project to date. Growing up, I was always told that sex should be saved for marriage. My Sunday school teachers told me that God would punish those who had sex before marriage. Because I did not want the wrath of God upon me, I decided at a young age that I would save sex for marriage. This was an easy vow to make during the times when I still ate boogers and thought girls were a little nasty. However, that phase passed and when the opportunity for sex presented itself, my fear of God’s punishment was nowhere to be found in the heat of passionate moments. Despite becoming sexually active, things in my life were still going very well. As a result, I came to the conclusion that God must not have been that unhappy with my new lifestyle. Watching porn, masturbating, and having sex had all become part of my norm. 

This was the case until I had an “at the well” experience. This happened gradually, but I became aware of an inherent hunger and thirst that lived deep within me. After numerous nights of studying the Bible and listening to sermons on YouTube during my senior year in high school, I began to learn more about this God who I had been running away from in my early days. The peace and the joy that came with knowing Him super passed the satisfaction of all the acts of temporary pleasure that I had come to know. Slowly but surely, God began to flip my world upside down. What I had come to accept as normal no longer felt right. Coming to know the love of God was the GAME-CHANGER for me. Temptation and sin did not magically disappear, but my reactions to them were no longer the same. During this transitional period, I fell countless times, because in my eagerness to change, I fought with my own strength. As God led me to humble myself, teaching me that the “spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak” (Matthew 26:41), I decided to surrender all to Him; my thoughts, my desires, my body, my all. For my body, abstaining from sex remains a foreign concept, as I am always ready to go. However, in my spirit, I am at peace with the decision to abstain, regardless of how unpopular this might be. I've chosen to die to this body in order to free my spirit, which carries the image of God. And this, has made saving sex normal.

ELLA: Adjusting wasn't easy at all for me. In my previous relationships, I expressed how much I wanted to practice abstinence. The guys would either play along with it for a while and cheat on me or they made me feel stupid for thinking that was an option. Before we got together, intimacy and sex were equivalent to me, it was a part of “showing” love or interest for someone. That mindset didn't just melt away when we got together, so the transition wasn't easy. I didn’t know how to show my love or affection without getting physical.  I remember also feeling like David wasn’t interested in me and he didn’t love me because he didn’t show his affection the way my ex’s did. Our first Christmas together he wrote me a poem along with my gift, and I thought it was really sweet…that’s it. A couple months ago I read it again and I couldn’t stop crying, seriously blown away by his love for me. But I realized that I didn’t really feel that way when he first gave it to me. It showed me that God was working on my heart the whole time. Transitioning definitely wasn’t normal but as I pursued God, He literally performed open heart surgery on me and I had no idea. When we allow the world to teach us how to love, we eventually end up suffering. Saving yourself for your spouse should be normal, but we need to turn back to God in order for it to be normal again. Don’t worry about it not feeling normal or how hard it’s going to be, God will handle it but are you READY?

Young Christian Couples: Let's Talk Sex; FAQ (Part 1)

PART 2 will be posted very soon! Here are some questions we've been asked and we thought it would probably help others too. If you have any questions or you wish to discuss certain topics further, let us know below! For social media you can contact us on  Instagram : @For_ella @Presidentduodu,  Facebook : Emmanuella Tandoh (hardly on there) , David Asamoah-Duodu and Twitter : @presidentduodu @_xfollowmyheels.

1. Marriage is so far away; you guys are young, why start waiting now?

DAVID: The start of our careers is also far away, yet we’re in school, studying, writing papers, searching for internships, etc. in hopes of best preparing ourselves for our specific offices. In the same breath, we feel that marriage is a serious office that requires serious preparation. We believe that waiting is a huge element of that preparation, and so... we wait.

ELLA: What he said… Why not start now? Before we are even a couple we are God’s children, and our relationship with Him should also come before “us”. It amazes me how we’re so quick to subtract Gods instructions, and shove Him away but not question how the society says our relationships should be. We’re starting now because we want to grow intimacy every day. You might say it’s still possible to grow in intimacy with sex, but I think people only believe that because that’s all they know. When I compare my previous relationships to me and David’s relationship, I see a huge difference! Abstinence has a way of revealing your true colors without your control, I knew I had issues but this relationship has shown me that I’m actually a hot mess. It’s done the same for David also, loving each other back to life and praying for each other has brought a tremendous amount of healing! I know waiting till marriage isn’t the easiest thing to do, actually it’s become the hardest thing I’ve ever done. But it’s brought healing I didn’t know I needed, brought me closer to God, and a relationship that always seems too good to be true. It’s worth it.